Always keep a working list of questions. Any
time you think of a question related to your surgery, add it to the list
right away so you won't forget it. Take the list of questions with
you to your appointments and write down the answers. No matter how
trivial the question is, just ask. You are preparing for major
surgery, not buying a toaster, so the only stupid question is the one
you don't ask.
Make arrangements to miss school and work.
Make sure everyone understands the intensity of the procedure and
don't allow teachers to even think that make-up work is something
they can expect before the entire process is over. Consider talking
to school counselors about the different options that exist for
missing prolonged periods of school. Many public schools are
required to provide tutors and other services to students with
medical needs.
Brief the people around you on what's going on.
You not only need the support, but need people to be your
advocates while you're gone. Before I left, apparently someone
thought I was going to have plastic surgery! As long as some
of your friends know the truth about where your going, wacky rumors
like that shouldn't get too far.
Publicize your pre-op/post-op contact information.
My friends were constantly sending me cards to the Ronald McDonald
House while I recovered and the cards offered encouragement during
that time. If you're staying within driving distance of your
hometown, you can request visitors if you feel up to it.
Try to get an early-morning surgery. You will
not be allowed to eat anything the day of the surgery, so the earlier,
the better. This will allow you to sleep in closer to the time of
the surgery, be less hungry, and have less time to worry. But if
your surgery is in the afternoon, don't sweat it. Just stay up
late the night before, eat a big midnight snack, and sleep in until
check-in time.
Make housing arrangements in advance if you don't live near
the medical center. Ask your surgeon's office to
connect you to a social worker about staying at a Ronald
McDonald House or other temporary housing options for young hospital
patients and their families. You need the referral of a social
worker to verify the legitimacy of your stay. Many hotels also
offer medical discounts for patients from out of town. Check
with the hospital to find out which hotels offer the best rates.
If you will be staying for several weeks, make sure to ask about
extended-stay discounts as well. Temporary apartments might be
another good option to consider.
Make arrangements for younger siblings. Do
not bring young siblings into the hospital on the day of the
operation. It is a bother not only to your family to have to
entertain them while preparing for the surgery, but it will be a
bother to other patients who are stressed about their own situations
as well. See if the younger ones can stay with other family or
friends. On the same note, do not invite extended family, even if
they ask. This is not the time for a reunion. That can
happen later.
Get any pre-surgery meds you might need.
It's pretty common now for patients to be given a local anesthetic
cream to put on the backs of their hands before surgery to numb the
area for the I.V.. Ask your surgeon if this is an option for
you and make sure you get the special cream before your surgery
date.
Load up on comedies.
Before every surgery, my dad and I would always go to video stores
like Blockbuster and Hollywood Video and buy a bunch of their
pre-viewed videos (back then DVDs weren't big yet... wow do I feel
old...). At any given point, these stores will have deals like
"5 for $25". Usually, these are the movies no one wants, thus
their great price. But since your mission is temporary
distraction and not a quality cinema experience, just go for it!
Eat a ton of chewy/crunchy food before the surgery.
After the surgery, you won't be allowed to use your
choppers, so use them now!
Relax and
do something fun the day before the surgery. to take
off the stress. Watch a movie, go to the zoo, treat yourself
to a shopping spree, or anything that will be fun and keep your mind
at ease. Worrying won't help anything (though that is 100
times more easily said than done). Just pray and leave the rest up
to God.
Make sure the anesthesiologist calls the
night before. As you probably already know, this is
standard procedure for major surgeries. When he or she calls,
they should give you instructions for when you need to stop eating
and drinking, and what check in procedures will be like. Make
sure to ask any and all questions you might have. If for
whatever reason they never call you, call them and make
sure everything is set for the next day.